Saturday, August 22, 2009
To return to work...or not????
Lately the I've been weighing a HUGE issue on my mind. To return back to my job after our baby comes, or to stay home. Assuming I end up having a choice, it will all depend on Raynor's job situation. I am just so proud of him. Before this pregnancy we were happy with where we both were in life. We were happy in the moment and never really looked ahead at the future. And I don't think there was anything wrong with that at the time considering we are both very young. But then we got pregnant and all of a sudden life was no longer just about us. We had another very important little person to consider. Almost right away, that same week Raynor started looking at other job oppertunities. So far he is applying for two different jobs. However, even if he does get a new job it will still be a tough decision to make. Having a baby is expensive and if I stop working thats going to be about 2500 dollars less a month in our income. That will hurt! We have been privilaged enough to live a comfortable life. We are by NO MEANS rich, but our bills are paid, and we have enough money left over to go out to dinner, see movies, and buy things for ourselves on occasion. If I end up staying home we will be down the just the basics. No more dinners out, no more movies. Raynor will have to stop buying stuff to support his fishing hobby, and I will have to stop buying shoes, clothes, handbags ect. Then I look at the other side of it and how much it would impact our daughter's life to have me at home. I used to work in a daycare center before the bank. At let me tell you, it broke my heart how many first steps I saw taken, first words babbled, and first smiles and laughs that the parents didn't get to see. Children only get one childhood and parents only get one chance to see it. Looking at it from that angle makes me want to stay home. I don't know, I'm sure everything will fall into place once she is here. Maybe it will be more clear then.
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If I may but in for a moment to tell you, though it sounds like you already know, staying at home is sooo worth it. No matter how many pennies pinched, when your there to witness that first smile or to see them roll over the first time or even recognize your face...the amount of money you could be making does not even come close to comparing. When Grace was born, I went back to work after 4mths and then I worked 2 days a week. With all the driving back and forth from work and to my parents/in-laws house to pick her up, I lost so much time with her that I can't make up. With Eden, I know I've seen every moment and so happy for that.
ReplyDeleteJosh and I have done the numbers and living on one income is difficult...especially with the economy and such. And there have been times when we haven't been able to afford anything but what we had budgeted for. But it doesn't stay like that forever. And let just say, that when you go so long without the dinners out or materialistic things we all like to have, it really makes you appreciate it that much more when you have that extra money to splurge on a date night or that really cute dress you have to have.
Ultimately though, it's a choice you and your man have to make together and it's got to work for you. :) Don't stress to much about it now...worry about it more when the time comes. :)
I agree. I just know that money will be soooo tight if I stop working, but when you have a baby its not like you have all the time to go out to dinner and movies anymore. I'm sure it will all make sense to me once shes here.
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